Behavior is a Form of Communication

Behavior is a Form of Communication

When my son was an infant and toddler, he would often scream in the car. On long car rides we desperately asked ourselves, “Why is he doing this to us?” We didn’t know our son had autism. After his diagnosis, we purchased noise-reducing headphones for him. He reached for them in the car one day and I knew: all those times he screamed in the car, he was not being naughty or trying to torture us. The highway noise was too loud for him and he was uncomfortable.

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We’re not getting much sleep, but it’s still worth it.

As parents, a glimmer of joy is worth a mountain of challenges.

If you have a child with autism, you may know that sleep disturbances are very common among autistic individuals. C had a sleep study before he was diagnosed with autism and – surprise! – they didn’t find anything. He was just a 2-year-old who sat up and cried, while still clinically asleep, rolled around, talked, yelled, kicked and punch the air, and woke countless times throughout the night. He sleeps so lightly that you might ask him a question and he’ll answer you.

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Special One-on-One Time

Special one on one time

Do you look at your kids and think, “How did you get this big?!” I can’t believe how quickly they are growing up. I want to treasure them at each age. We like to have special one-on-one time with each of our children once in a while. I think it’s important when you have more than one child to give each of them a special day that is all about them. Thanks to my parents, we had the opportunity to do that this weekend! It’s fun to see the excitement in the kids’ eyes when we give them the opportunity to choose their own adventure.

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Mothering When Your Well is Empty

Mothering when your well is empty

“I am touched out!” Raise your hand if you’ve expressed those words before. I have both of mine raised. There have been far too many times when I just CANNOT. The kids demanded two different dinners, so you made three because you need to eat, too. Then they decided that whatever you so humbly made them is inedible by the time it arrives to their plates. So you passed out bowls of yogurt and Goldfish because there’s no way you will make another meal. Why are these tiny humans so unreasonable?!

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I’m giving myself three months to manage my mental health without medication.

Self-care can look different for each of us.

Two experiences with postpartum mood disorders, antenatal mood disorders and now situational depression. I’m a parent of two young children on the autism spectrum and realized that I am likely on the spectrum as well. I never anticipated that mental health would play such a large role in my life. But here I am, finally tapered off of a medication that caused an allergic reaction. Two other drugs ruled out due to the level of side effects that I experienced. My doctor and I have agreed on this – I’m giving myself three months to manage my mental health without medication.

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