My dad recently mentioned to me that I’m doing laundry every time he visits – for the entire time he’s here. He doesn’t only come on my laundry days and, since we live in different states, he is here for more than a short visit. He’s right. I do A LOT of laundry.
Today, I sorted and washed five loads of laundry. I was feeling pretty accomplished when my last load went into the washing machine. Then I walked into the living room to find that C had spit up on himself and everything around him. *sigh*
The tagline to motherhood should read as follows…
Welcome to motherhood: Your restful nights are over and your life now revolves around a washing machine.
I’m going to start tonight by applauding all of the single mothers out there. I honestly don’t know how you do it.
Hubster has been working some crazy long hours lately. To finish preparing for a presentation today, he was in his office until 4am this morning. He leaves before 8 in the morning, so I’ve been having some extremely long days and nights on my own with C. C generally doesn’t nap during the day (sometimes he sleeps 20 minutes on his own, or he’ll sleep longer if he’s being held), so I never seem to get a moment to myself to get things done or to just have a few moments of “me time.” I think he’s going through another growth spurt, so he’s been extra cranky, tired and hungry. This means that he’s been waking up a little more frequently at night to eat. The past few days he has also been getting up at 6am instead of the typical 8am.
Tonight I gave C a bath by myself and that was a challenge! He just learned how to kick to splash the water – so by the end, I was pretty drenched.
I’m SO tired by the end of the day that last night I went to bed at 8. Tonight I think I’ll be hitting the pillow before 9. The days and nights are long.
I can’t wait for September. I want my Hubster back!
Over the past week, someone said to me that they’d love to be able to “just” stay at home with their kids. (They emphasized the “just.” This person did not have children.) Inwardly, I was outraged that this person thought that life at home with children was so easy. Outwardly, all I could do was smile politely at their ignorance.
Whether you’ve stayed at home with your child during your maternity leave, you’re a work-at-home-mom, or you’re a full-time stay-at-home-mom (hereby referred to as SAHM), you know that the last word you’d use to describe your job is “easy.” In fact, this is easily the most difficult job I have ever had.
Since I’m not going to be a rude, exhausted mother of a fussy newborn and go off on an ignorant bystander, I will provide an outline of my inner tirade that is set off with those types of comments:
There are no breaks in mothering. No 15-minute morning break. No lunch break. No taking a vacation day. Sick? Too bad!
Have a problem with a coworker? At least you can walk away from the problem. Try walking away from your fussy offspring. Not an option.
Hate getting up early for work? Try waking up every couple of hours for night feedings.
Try spending an entire day without seeing an adult. You will find yourself starved for adult conversation, in any form; yet, almost worthless in conversation due to exhaustion. (Next time you see a tired, disheveled looking woman in the store looking at you eagerly, she’s probably a new mother.)
Work 9-5, 2-10, or even 6-6? Hey, at least you can bug off after you get your hours in. My job is 24/7 baby.
Can’t function in the morning without your coffee? Most days, I don’t even have time to make any.
Some days, I would eagerly trade my SAHM duties for some good ol’ workplace stress (not that I don’t love my baby, don’t get me wrong).
And the other thing that really makes me mad on a tough day is the person who complains about how little sleep they’re getting. Dude, I get that you’re busy with work/school/whatever, but don’t complain to me about being tired. You have the option to sleep in on a Saturday or take an afternoon nap if you can work it out with your schedule. I’m at a child’s beck and call 24 hours each day, and I can guarantee that I’m getting less sleep than you and you’re not hearing me complain to you about it.
Truth: Being a SAHM or WAHM is not easy. And don’t tell me it is because if I’m having an exceptionally bad day, I might drop-kick you.
I think couponing is a way of embracing my new role as a stay-at-home mom. While I do work from home, I also recognize the need to save money and keep a tight budget since we don’t have two full-time incomes. Diapers are expensive, aren’t they?! ;)
Usually, I plan our meals around the weekly sales at the grocery store. This week I took it a step further. We went through our freezer and are planning on using up everything that we have in there. It’s amazing what you accumulate and forget about. I only purchased produce that was on sale. In fact, with the exception of a couple items, everything that we purchased was on sale this week. After I handed over the coupons – get this! – I saved $20! TWENTY DOLLARS! I was SO excited!
One of Hubster’s coworkers is really into couponing and offered to teach me some strategies before she moves away to take a different job this summer. I’m pumped to learn more about saving money for our family.
Every time C takes a nap in the afternoon, I never know how long he’s going to sleep. The first things I get done are the essentials – pumping, washing bottles, laundry. If he’s still sleeping, I check my email, Twitter, Facebook. If he’s still sleeping, I start to think about the things I need to do that take more time – work, cleaning the counter, filing the stack of papers on the desk. By the time I get to that point, I’m always afraid to get started on those projects. I think he’ll wake up as soon as I begin.
No wonder I never get anything substantial done. I keep falling into the nap trap.
I totally felt like Superwoman yesterday. Today…not so much. Now I understand what people mean about the highs and lows of caring for a newborn. Early this morning, I came down with either the flu or some kind of food poisoning, so I’m not at my best today to begin with. I have to admit, heaving less than two weeks after a c-section is quite painful. :-/
Hubster had a work commitment for a few hours this afternoon, and C insisted on giving me a hard time. Every time I put him down, he cried. At one point, he was freshly changed, had been fed and shouldn’t have been tired but was still crying. I started crying, too. I was never so glad to see Hubster than I was when he came home from his meeting. Bless his heart, he took care of C for the rest of the afternoon while I napped. He is wonderful.
I totally am rocking at homemaking so far today! I’m so proud Woke up at 10 (okay, so it was a bit late, but I’ve been SO tired lately!), started laundry, cleaned the bathroom, replied to emails, did the dishes, vacuumed and dusted all within two hours. BAM!
Trying to get into good habits of keeping things clean and organized so that I’m already in the routine of it before the baby arrives. I want to rock at this whole stay-at-home mom thing, particularly since I never expected I would be a SAHM.
What are some homemaking habits that you’re proudest of?
Now that I’m jobless and going to be home every day, there are a few things that I want to vow to keep doing. I don’t want to be one of those people who lose their sense of purpose and stops taking care of simple hygiene.
Shower after having my first meal (always have to eat as soon as I wake up to keep morning sickness at bay).
Wear regular clothes, not resort to lounge pants and hoodies on a daily basis.
Put my makeup on.
Make the bed. This is something that I didn’t do on a daily basis when I had to get to work, so I want to start!
Open the blinds to let natural light in.
Some things that I’m relieved to finally have some time to get done:
File papers that have been stacking up since we lived in our temporary suite.
Organize my clothes by packing away some things that will no longer fit until after the baby.
Watch some of the movies I put on our instant Netflix queue!
Organize my email inbox that has almost 250 messages.
Find a shirt that I’ve been searching for but unable to find…it’s probably in one of the unpacked bins.
Start working on our baby registry – looking forward to that!
Clean the tub…once I have the energy for it.
Read some books that I purchased this summer but haven’t gotten to.