Our weeknights feel like short blurs of activity between school and bedtime. Weekends, however, are sacred family time. We enjoy slow mornings with cartoons and cuddles, longer bedtimes with stories and more cuddles. The weekends are our time to unwind and reconnect as a family unit. While it is wonderful to have this time together, we don’t usually get one-on-one time with each of our children. At the suggestion of my parents, I scheduled each child to have a day at home this month with me. It would be our special day together – and it was great! Here are 5 reasons to create a special day with each child to enjoy them one-on-one:
Make them the star for the day
For each of my kids, I planned one thing that I knew they would enjoy and I let them pick one thing that they wanted to do. They’re still too small to tell me, but my hope is that the event that I chose made them feel seen and loved, while the event that they chose made them feel special.
Give them undivided attention
Clear your schedule and give them the gift of your time. I usually need to make dinner when my son wants to play video games with me during the week. He loved racing me in Mario Kart during his special day!
Eliminate sibling rivalry
My kids are constantly competing. There’s always jealousy or fighting for my attention. When we have one-on-one time, the element of sibling rivalry is removed and they are each free to be completely themselves.
See them in a different light
In our family dynamic, one of my children has a more dominant personality. When I spend time alone with the other child, their personality shines.
Nurture your connection with your child
Build your child’s memory bank with happy experiences and warm thoughts of your time together! It is easier to nurture that connection on a regular basis to create a strong relationship. My kids often bring up things we did months ago. Give your kids many fun moments to remember!
Between therapy and school, our home life can sometimes feel rushed, stressful, and filled more with difficult behavior than with fun. These special days with my children helped me to nurture my relationships with each of them and provide all of us with fun memories to keep us going through good times and bad. It helps fill my bucket just as much as theirs! What would a special day with your child look like? What do they love to do?