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My Years of Transition by Anna Stindt {Guest Post}

I’m happy to have my friend, Anna, posting here today.  Anna is a social worker and mom to a 17-month-old son.  Thank you for being here, Anna!
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Odd years have been good to me & I hope for the same in 2013.
  • 2003- graduated high school
  • 2007- graduated college
  • 2009- graduated from my master’s & got married
  • 2011- my son was born
  • 2013- starts our new adventure…
My husband recently got a job about 120 miles from where we currently live. Since, end of November we have started our 2013 transition of moving to a new city. We have been staying with our parents at either location due to holiday travel has well. I have to say my 17-month-old has handled it very well.
A few things I have done that I think was helpful:
  • Familiar toys at both location
  • kept to his usual routine of eating & sleeping
  • have his security item (blanket/ puppy) with us at all times
  • either mom or dad have been with him everyday.
Who knows what else 2013 will bring us. However transitions are a lot more eventful with a little one on board!

Credit Card Fiasco

Ugh, I am so annoyed.  I never knew that moving would be such a hassle with our CREDIT CARD company.

When we first moved, I followed the standard protocol and changed our address online through my account.  After I clicked “update,” I noticed that it had reverted to our former city/state but kept our new street address.  So I changed it again.  Then it was correct.  No big deal, right?

Wrong.

Hubster had his card denied twice the other day.  I called the credit card company and was told that there was nothing wrong with our account and it shouldn’t happen again.  A few days later, my credit card was denied.  At the grocery store.

Embarrassing.  Frustrating.

I sent a message to them through their secure online messaging center.  The reply?  Despite the fact that we JUST sent you new cards this week, we’re sending you another set of new cards.  You won’t receive them for seven business days, and your current cards will not work.  Please contact customer service.

In the meantime, I get an email from Hulu Plus saying that they were unable to charge my account (which is set up as a monthly payment through this credit card) and therefore my service will soon be cancelled.

*grumble grumble*

Okay, another phone call to the credit card company’s customer service line.  Twenty minutes later, the hold has been taken off of my account due to the “issues with my address.”  However, my card will no longer work.  I must destroy these new cards once the newest set of cards arrive.

OMG.  Can’t I just change my address, not have two sets of cards sent to me, and not have my credit card denied?  Please and thank you.

We Move Tomorrow!

I’ve been doing a great job of not dwelling on our upcoming move.  Somehow, I’ve managed not to daydream about what our apartment might look like (we haven’t seen it!).  Until now, that is.  We’re going to get our keys tomorrow and I cannot wait!

Tomorrow, we’re planning on meeting my parents at our new apartment.  They’ll be bringing my old crib, which will become C’s crib.  Then C will go home with them for the weekend so that we can move our things in and get settled before picking him up.    Hubster’s parents are bringing our trailer full of stuff to the apartment on Saturday and then we’ll officially be moved into our new home!

I am SO excited to set up C’s first room!  I really cannot wait to see what our new apartment looks like and put all of our things in their new space.  We’re moving from a 1-bedroom apartment to a spacious 3-bedroom – I don’t know what we’ll do with all of our newfound space!  Yay!

Another Call for Guest Bloggers!

We’ve moved once…and we’ll be moving again!  I’m looking for guest bloggers for June 20-26 while we move from our temporary housing to our apartment.

Please pass this along via Twitter and/or Facebook to anyone you think might be interested!

You may contact me via a comment, Facebook, Twitter or email: lilmamajama@gmail.com. Thank you!

Mother’s Intuition

Last week, I had my first experience with mother’s intuition.  It makes me smile thinking about it.

We dropped C off with my parents the week of our move, so that he wouldn’t be getting into boxes and cleaning products as we prepared to leave our apartment.  He did really well with them, and we made sure we Skyped every day until moving day.

When we moved and realized we didn’t have data on our phones or internet service, I was sad that I couldn’t see my baby and tell him that we’d come get him in two days.  I woke up the day after our move and was so depressed.  I was in the pit of my PPD and couldn’t bring myself to get out of bed.  The reason?  I missed my son so much.  Hubster and I decided to go pick up C a day early and surprise him.

Meanwhile, unbeknownst to me, C had woken up that morning and stared solemnly at a family picture of us while he ate his breakfast.  After breakfast, he grabbed that picture and carried it around with him.  He even kissed it!  My parents said it was the first time all week he had done that, and they knew that he’d had enough and wanted mama and dada back.

When we saw C, we gave him a big hug and almost instantly, I felt complete again.  I was amazed when I heard the story about C and our picture.  It was like I innately knew that we had to go get him that day.  Mother’s intuition.  Quite an amazing thing!

Have you experienced mother’s intuition? 

I’ll Become a Squatter Before I Ever Move Again

Last week, we moved from one Midwestern state to another.  We’re back in our home state now, which is awesome, but let me tell you – moving is a real bitch.

I’ve always gotten stressed out during moves.  Factor in mental illness (postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression) and it’s about 1000 times worse.  I had no idea that I’d find myself holding onto sanity by an unraveling thread.  If anything had gone wrong, I’m pretty sure I’d be writing this from the nuthouse.

But wait!  We’re only done with Phase One of our Moving Month du Jour.  In less than a month, we get to move to our new apartment.  For now, Hubster’s wonderfully generous brother is allowing us to stay in his home that he’s preparing to put on the market.

Did I mention how wonderfully generous this is?  :)  I’m so pleased and relieved that we get to have our own space during this month of transition.  I don’t think anyone (except any lovelies who also experience anxiety) can understand how important it is for me to have my own space.   I get super anxious about being judged for any minute thing (not that anyone would judge me; it’s just my perception of reality), our routine being altered, not having my “me” time when I need it, etc.  The fact that we have our own home to live in right now is really invaluable, considering how difficult this whole moving process has already been on me.  Thank you, dear brother-in-law, for your generosity.

Anyway, I’ve learned some valuable life lessons this week that I thought I would share:

Don’t prematurely pack the Band-Aids.
I’m pretty sure this tape contraption was made for slicing flesh.  And if you manage enough coordination to escape unharmed, you’ll probably get a wicked paper cut from a cardboard box.

Don’t become apathetic about cleaning three months before you move.
I fell into the trap of, “Well, I’ll have to clean the microwave when we leave, so why bother wiping out that spaghetti sauce?”  Then a few weeks after that, “Look at all those sauce splatters!  Why bother covering this plate of explosive enchiladas that I’m about to reheat?”  I’ll tell you why you should cover it.  Because it will take you five times longer to clean that damn microwave the night before you move, when you have a billion other things on your to-do list that need to be done RIGHT NOW.

Don’t keep those shirts you wore when you were 18 and plan to fit into again.
Face reality, sweetheart.  Unless you tape up your chest with commercial-strength bandages, you’ll never fit into those shirts again.  Donate them.

Plastic wrap is your best friend.
No, not for bandaging your chest.  It’s useful for wrapping silverware tightly, protecting mirrors, keeping drawers from falling out, and about 100 other little things.

I hope for your sake that you aren’t facing a big move; but if you are, keep these life lessons in mind.  Have you learned any lessons while moving?

The Month of Moving Begins

I’m a little sad today.  Today is the last day we have as a family in C’s first home.  We’re dropping him off with my parents tomorrow, and he’ll be with them for a week while we pack up our things and move out of state.  I’m not too sad about leaving our first family “home” behind, because let’s face it – it hasn’t been that easy living in a one-bedroom apartment.  What saddens me more is that we won’t see our little C for a week while we start the first phase of our big transition.  Phase one entails living in Hubster’s brother’s house for the 3+ weeks before we can get our keys for our new apartment, on the campus of Hubster’s new job.

It’s as if C knows that we’re dropping him off tomorrow.  Despite being tired and cranky, he’s been showering us with affection.  I’m going to miss his sweet, mischievous smile and those darling hugs and kisses.  I can’t wait until we get to pick him up again!

With C around, we haven’t been able to get much done in the way of packing.  Hubster and I will be powering through the packing this week before we move on Friday morning.  Since I’ll be occupied with that, several guest bloggers will be featured here over the next week.  They’re friends, fellow bloggers, and talented writers, so I hope you’ll stop by to check them out!  Have a great week, loves.  This week is going to be a bit stressful – wish us luck!

Time to Clean Out the Cupboards!

Well, we move in six days.  SIX.  DAYS.  Yeah, I’m freaking out just a little.

We’re trying to use up all of the food in our cupboards, refrigerator and freezer so that we don’t need to worry about hauling it to another state.  I discovered the motherlode of frozen fruit in our freezer.  Apparently, I was once really pumped about making smoothies.  When was the last time I made a smoothie?  Probably in December.  I’m now consuming a LOT of fruit smoothies.

I’ve made cornbread, thrown out pork chops we froze in October, and baked two cakes.

I’ve also found lots of beans.  It’s best to steer clear of our household for the next few days.  Don’t say I didn’t warn you.  ;)

 

Juggling, Juggling, Juggling…

Ever feel like you’re juggling with so many balls in the air that you’re just waiting for one of them to drop?

We’re moving out of state in just over two weeks.  In the meantime, we’re trying to fit in numerous doctor appointments, C’s one-year photo session with a smash cake from a local baker, a family vacation, a family trip to the state zoo…and I know there’s more that I’m forgetting.  Plus there’s just so many details involved in moving to a new state.  Changes of address, insurance, car title/registration, driver’s license, etc.  Since we won’t be able to move to our apartment until the end of June, I’m making lists of what cannot sit in the heat of outdoor storage for a month.  I’m planning the system of how we’ll know what to leave in outdoor storage and what will need to be placed indoors.  What can we pack now, and what needs to wait until the last few days before the move?

There is just so much on my mind.  I’m having a hard time falling asleep at night.

Then there’s all the ordinary day-to-day work that I do.  I feel like it’s only a matter of time before some fecal matter makes contact with the oscillating air distribution device.

*sigh*

Mentally Checking Out

In less than a month, Hubster will graduate and shortly after that, his graduate assistantship will come to an end and we will need to move out of our campus apartment.  We don’t know exactly when we’re moving yet; mostly because we don’t know where we’re headed next.  Yet, I think I’ve already begun to mentally check out of this place.

Our bathtub is riddled with hardwater and iron stains, but I have no desire to clean it.  After all, I’ll need to clean it again next month before we move out.  Same goes with the window sills, corners of the rooms, refrigerator, kitchen sink, oven…the list goes on.  I’ve given up on keeping the place spotless because I’ll need to do a final scrubbing of everything just a few weeks from now.  Why bother to do it twice?  Who really cares if the bathtub is shiny for a few more weeks?

I’ve also come to the “end of my rope,” if you will, when it comes to living in this space.  Just above our bathroom is a bathroom shared by some students in a suite and shortly across the hall are public bathrooms.  The chorus of flushing toilets doesn’t bother me; but every time someone takes a sh*t in the tri-state area, we get to smell it.

I CANNOT. WAIT. for C to have his own bedroom.  Sharing a bedroom is becoming increasingly problematic the older that C gets.  He knows that we’re right next to him, so we need to wait for him to fall back asleep when he gets up in the middle of the night before we can enter the room.  I often wake up hours later with a kink in my neck because I fell asleep on the couch.  I also wake up every time C moves around in his sleep – and this kid is an untamed animal in his sleep.

Hubster would like to move our bed into the living room.  I told him that if he can come up with the logistics of that, then I’m all for it.  (You may remember that he had this idea a while back, and I wasn’t a big fan. “Welcome to my home, please have a seat on my bed.”)

*sigh*

Maybe it’s better to be eager for a new adventure than sad about what will be left behind.

When Did Leaving Home Become a Hassle?!

Hubster, C and I are preparing to drive to our home state for the weekend.  He has an annual weekend with his high school buds.  C and I are going to drop him off and spend the weekend with my parents.  While Hubster smashes 5 days of work into 4 (during Homecoming week!), I’m trying to get the apartment cleaned and get everything ready to leave for the weekend.

Since we will be moving presumably in late June…and probably to a different state…I would like to take some stuff back to my parents’ to put in storage.  For example, I don’t need my old maternity wardrobe hanging around here taking up space.  There’s also a box of pregnancy-related books (among others) that I won’t look at before we move.  I’d like to haul back more, but I don’t think our economy sedan can handle it in addition to our gear for the weekend.

I’m racing around packing, organizing and cleaning and it occurred to me, “When did leaving home for the weekend become such a ginormous pain in the bootie?!”

Since it’s the end of the month, I also have several work deadlines coming up that I need to take care of.  I just don’t know how I’m going to fit it all in.  I have a feeling that I’ll be working a bunch this weekend while my parents oogle over their grandson!

2×4

The larger the baby, and therefore I, get, the more I feel like there is a 2×4 stuck in my core that is impossible to bend over or around.  It makes me feel a little hapless sometimes, because I’d really like to be able to lean and bend over to reach or clean things.  I can only imagine how I’ll feel as I get closer to full-term!