Behavior is a Form of Communication

Behavior is a Form of Communication

When my son was an infant and toddler, he would often scream in the car. On long car rides we desperately asked ourselves, “Why is he doing this to us?” We didn’t know our son had autism. After his diagnosis, we purchased noise-reducing headphones for him. He reached for them in the car one day and I knew: all those times he screamed in the car, he was not being naughty or trying to torture us. The highway noise was too loud for him and he was uncomfortable.

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We’re not getting much sleep, but it’s still worth it.

As parents, a glimmer of joy is worth a mountain of challenges.

If you have a child with autism, you may know that sleep disturbances are very common among autistic individuals. C had a sleep study before he was diagnosed with autism and – surprise! – they didn’t find anything. He was just a 2-year-old who sat up and cried, while still clinically asleep, rolled around, talked, yelled, kicked and punch the air, and woke countless times throughout the night. He sleeps so lightly that you might ask him a question and he’ll answer you.

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Why We Chose to Delay Kindergarten for a Year

Why we chose to delay kindergarten for a year

Our son turned five in April, so we knew that this fall he would be headed to kindergarten. That’s what 5-year-olds do, after all. They go off to kindergarten with their peers. Did you know that kindergarten lasts all day now? It’s not just a few short hours like when we were kids. That means that my 5-year-old with autism would be in school all day, then go to his center-based therapy for two hours to continue developing his life skills and social skills. It’s a big commitment for a little fella who, my gut told me, may not be ready to handle the transition.

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Having Children With Autism Does Not Make Me A “Martyr Mommy”

There are few things that really get to me. Working in social media, I scroll through countless offensive and generally awful things on a daily basis. You learn quickly to let things roll off your back or you’ll just feel down about things all the time. But when I came across this meme while scrolling through my personal Facebook feed, it really hit home. It says, “What if I told you autism parents are just martyr mommies?” Let me be clear: Having children with autism does not make me a “martyr mommy.”

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Special One-on-One Time

Special one on one time

Do you look at your kids and think, “How did you get this big?!” I can’t believe how quickly they are growing up. I want to treasure them at each age. We like to have special one-on-one time with each of our children once in a while. I think it’s important when you have more than one child to give each of them a special day that is all about them. Thanks to my parents, we had the opportunity to do that this weekend! It’s fun to see the excitement in the kids’ eyes when we give them the opportunity to choose their own adventure.

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