I suppose that when you’re a stay-at-home mom and your child is staying with his grandparents for the week, you can consider it a vacation right?!
Well, I guess I’m on vacation! After visiting my parents last weekend, we decided to leave C with them for the week since I was planning on coming back next weekend. They get time to bond with C and I get some time to myself. It’s a win-win, really.
Other parents seem to react to this in one of two ways. Either they tip their head a little, narrow their eyes and say, “Wow, I could never leave my child for a whole week.” Or they say, “Awesome! Are you enjoying your freedom? Enjoy it while you can, girl!”
The first reaction makes me feel like the worst mother in the world and is, quite frankly, a bit judgmental. Of course I miss my son! But on the other hand, I had a horrible pregnancy, an awful delivery experience ending in an emergency c-section, then two months of C’s colic followed by the high needs personality that has emerged in him. I love my son dearly, but sometimes I get really burned out. I have a feeling that the people who react this way don’t have a high needs baby and/or have a job outside of the home where they get the adult interaction that SAHMs crave so badly.
The majority of people with the second reaction have been fellow SAHMs who totally understand the need for alone time. It was awesome to excitedly share with them some of the things I’ve been up to while C is with his grandparents.
On Monday night, Hubster and I finally got to see “The Lion King 3D” and it was AMAZING! It was my favorite movie as a kid, and now I also was able to catch the humor that Disney throws in for adults. We had a great time, and followed it up with wine and an appetizer at Olive Garden. So fun.
Yesterday afternoon, I took at 3.5 hour nap. It was glorious.
Today, I went to the salon for a haircut and then went shopping. Leisurely. Alone.
I miss C’s little snuggles and open-mouthed kisses that fill your face with slobber. I miss those laughs that brighten up my day. But I am very much enjoying this time to be on my own schedule, and I don’t think I should feel guilty about that.