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The #MeToo campaign is rocketing through social media. I couldn’t figure out why it made me uncomfortable. I didn’t update my status. I didn’t want to have the conversation. In fact, I started quickly scrolling past the #MeToo statuses and affirmations. It’s just…a lot.
October is also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Time has passed since I shared about my experience with you. Honestly, I don’t want to talk about it anymore. It took 10 years for me to move past what happened to me. Ten years before I stopped looking over my shoulder, my heart racing. Ten years before I stopped thinking I saw his face in a store.
I have finally, thankfully, moved forward. I am embracing who I am and finally feel ready to allow new people into my life. Ten years is a long time to shut out new people, especially when numerous life changes and moves occur during that time.
He stole ten years of my confidence, my comfort, my trust in humanity. I will not let him hold power over my life anymore.
This tweet from Alexis Benveniste sums up my thoughts on this matter. Survivors don’t owe you their stories.
Reminder that if a woman didn’t post #MeToo, it doesn’t mean she wasn’t sexually assaulted or harassed. Survivors don’t owe you their story.
— Alexis Benveniste (@apbenven) October 16, 2017
The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker should be required reading for everyone. The victim is never to blame. The abuser is always at fault. This book, however, could have saved me from getting into a relationship that presented many warning signs. Read this book.